Yeah this isn’t happening at all.
When people spend their Bitcoin 99.99% of merchants dont actually get the bitcoin, they dont want the bitcoin, they use a third-party service that gives them currency and the bitcoin is sold on the market to another speculator. So its basically the same as selling your bitcoin on an exchange, getting the cash, and spending it. Every time someone spends their bitcoin right now, it causes price decrease, the more that start spending/using their bitcoin the faster it will collapse because for every purchase, you need to line up a speculator to pay for it.
When you can give me examples of businesses that keep their Bitcoin, sure you can say adoption is starting, but before then, they dont count.
Sure might there be the occasional illegal trade, micro-transaction, private services, money laundering, international transfer or an actual transaction, yeah, but it is such a small fraction - and far less than you believe. The main use-case and demand for Bitcoin is price speculation - and as a anchor trading vehicle for the crypto-market.